Hearing Wedding Bells for Same Sex Couples, Thanks to My Sons

Written by scott on October 28th, 2013

Gay Wedding - HandsThe last 40 years of advocacy for people who are gay and lesbian set off difficult times for me. My own journey of understanding came about through the most personal of catalysts:

On a March night in 1987, our oldest son — now a Portland business owner — told his mother and me that he was gay.

My first, determined response was to counsel him both as father and pastor, and both academically and biblically, to turn back from this identity. When he tearfully pleaded, “I don’t want to lose you!” I realized that my pontificating was driving him away. I needed to listen and learn.

When I first wrestled with Scripture passages, I was struck by the disconnectedness between the idolatrous and sexually abusive behaviors the Bible condemned in contrast to the high character and integrity of my son. I began to see that my quickness to judge contradicted the Biblical mandate not to judge, and violated the basic command to love our neighbor — my son — as we love ourselves.

Authored By Gilbert Rossing – See the Full Story at The Oregonian

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