North Carolina Judge OK’s GOP Intervention, Says It’s a Waste of Time

Written by scott on October 15th, 2014

North Carolina MapThe GOP and NOM have been granted the standing to intervene in a marriage equality case in North Carolina. Joe.My.God reports:

United States District Court Judge William Osteen today ruled that the GOP/NOM legal team has the standing to appeal North Carolina’s marriage equality case… But check out this smackdown towards the end of the ruling: Notwithstanding some of the ongoing cases on a national level, this discussion is merely academic in this court. The United States Court of Appeals for the Fourth Circuit has issued its ruling in Bostic. As recognized by the district court in General Synod, this district court, sitting in North Carolina and the Fourth Circuit, is bound to apply that law. The parties to this case have the right to expect nothing less, whether they agree with the law or not. The issue presently before this court is solely whether to permit intervention for the purpose of preserving and taking an appeal. Although it is a very close issue, this court concludes that the motion to intervene should be granted, but only for the purpose of lodging an objection and preserving that objection to this court’s application of Bostic.

In otherwords, you’ll get your day in court, but at this point you’re just wasting everyone’s time and money.

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Seriously? What Marriage Equality Opponents Are Saying

Written by scott on October 15th, 2014

Seriously?Here’s the the latest in our ongoing series of some of the crazy things the anti-gay marriage equality opponents are saying and doing around the world.

There’s No Ebola Vaccine Because of Fat Lesbians

That’s the contention of right-wing commentator Erick Erickson:

In a post titled “Fat Lesbians Got All The Ebola Dollars But Blame the GOP,” Erickson insists that it was the federal government’s choice to fritter away taxpayer money on useless studies. Chief among them: a project “studying the propensity of lesbans to be fat.”

This is, of course. absolute idiocy. The reason we don’t have a vaccine is that our health care system is profit-driven, and there’s no profit in it. But the truth never gets in the way of a good gay bashing for the right wing.

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God Will Get Us With Ebola or Worse for Liking the Gays

Pastor Ron Baity picks up the theme:

“In’it amazing for a 150+ years we’ve had the laws and many of the same laws on the book and all of a sudden we’re supposed to have had a vision overnight at how dumb we were all of those years and now the things that even put laws in place that said homosexuality is breaking the law is now putting so called laws in place saying that it’s ok, that it’s a lifestyle that’s acceptable in our society… we are bringing the judgment of God on this nation as sure as Sodom and Gomorrah was destroyed. Don’t be surprised at the plagues. Don’t be surprised at the judgment of God. You think Ebola us bad now? Just wait. If it’s not that, it’s gonna be something else.”

Aside from the rampantly poor grammar, the open bigotry and hatred for gays expressed in this man’s speech is chilling. Twenty years ago, it was AIDS that was God’s judgement for being gay. What will it be in 2034?

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The Rainbow Flag is the Mark of the Beast

That’s what Bryan Fischer says, talking about a T-Shirt printer who refused to print a Pride shirt:

“The Mark of the Beast today is the rainbow flag. You think about the number of examples, and I just ticked through a list of examples here, of people who were unable, who were not allowed to engage in commerce because they would not take the mark of the Beast on their hands or on their foreheads. They would not allow the Beast to dictate to them what they did with regard to the homosexual agenda, what they did or what they thought.

A couple things here. First off, no one is telling these people what to think. That has never been suggested. In fact, our side has been quite clear that you are free to thing (and believe) whatever you want. Clearly – just read these pages to see the proof. But I was unaware that the bible had a passage proclaiming the rights of people to conduct commerce. In fact, I kinda remember a passage where Jesus didn’t treat kindly the merchants engaged in commerce. We need to separate religion in this country, which is often a beautiful, noble thing, from for profit businesses. Yes, you can be a Christian and run a for-profit business. But the rules of the state apply, not the rules of the church. And the rules of the state now say quite clearly – you need to treat everyone equally. If you just want to print Christian T-Shirts, do it as a hobby. But once you start trying to male a profit, you have to open the doors to everyone. Gays, lesbians, Buddhists Muslims, men, women, African Americans, Mexican Americans, young, old, married, single – everyone.

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Christ Still Rules Our Democracy, Despite What Judge Says

Yeah, that’s the confusing message from Jim Minnery, head of Alaska Family Action, in response to marriage equality coming to the state via a judicial ruling:

“Apparently, [Judge] Burgess agrees with one of the lawyers for the plaintiffs suing the State who said that marriage is a “changing institution.” Changing exactly into what is the most frightening aspect of this ruling. Under what logical rationale would the Courts now deny other “evolving” forms of marriage ? Three wives for one husband ? Marrying your aunt or niece or brother ? Group marriage involving any number of couples and individuals with various sexual orientations ? Once you eliminate sexual complementarity from the marriage equation, is there any reason to keep other cornerstones we’ve all taken for granted for generations including exclusivity, permanence and monogamy? There can be no doubt that this was a subversion of the democratic process. Who is the true owner of our state constitution ? Is it the people of Alaska or unelected men and women who happen to wear black robes? If it’s the latter, then the idea that we live in a representative democracy is nothing more than wishful thinking. Despite our disappointment with the Burgess ruling, Christ is still on the throne.”

Um, you at least kind of had a coherent point, however misguided, in that you think judges shouldn’t be able to overturn the rule of the people. But then you had to go and blow it with the whole Jesus on the Throne thing. This is still a democracy where the people decide – via a vote or via the legislature or via judges who are able to put a check on decisions that violate the Constitution. The big one, you know, for all the states? And that Constitution also contains a separation of Church and State. I know you hate that, but it’s there. So unless and until that is changed, Jesus doesn’t have a vote. Nor does Mohammed, or Buda, for that matter.

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Marriage Equality Round-Up 10/15/14

Written by scott on October 15th, 2014

Here’s our daily quick round-up of the marriage equality and LGBT rights stories that don’t warrant a full posting on the blog, or that we just didn’t have time to add. We’re able to get more news and analysis to you this way every day – enjoy!

Australia: Australian gay marriage supporters have registered a new party, The Australian Equlity Party (AEP), and has signed more than the 500 members required for recognition from the Australian Electoral Commission. full story

China: Community Marketing and Insights has just released the first China LGBT Community Survey. full story

Italy: A gay couple in Italy have alerted police after being turned away from blood donation clinic, saying nurses told them their blood had been “thrown away” before. full story

Kenya : Human Rights Watch is encouraging the government to allow human rights groups, including LGBT rights groups, to register and carry out their work. full story

Palau: The Pacific island nation of Palau has decriminalized gay sex in a revision of its penal code. full story

UK: “Wonderkid,” a short film being put together by director Rhys Chapman and co-writers Chapman and Terence Corless, tackles homophobia in professional sports. full story

UK: Civil partnership conversion ceremonies will be allowed at venues other than register offices, including churches, synagogues, meeting houses and other registered venues. full story

USA: Buzzfeed has a fancy new marriage equality map. full story

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USA: Fox News is pushing the myth that a decline in marriage rates has been “caused” by gay marriage. full story

USA: Freedom to Marry’s Evan Wolfson took on NOM’s Brian Brown on C-SPAN yesterday. full story

USA, Alaska: Although weddings have now begun in the state, Alaska Governor Sean Parnell is appealing the decision. full story

USA, Alaska: The state has until January 21st to file briefs with the Ninth Circuit. full story

USA, Arizona: Greg Daniels, co-director of the Pride Alliance, talks marriage equality with The Daily Wildcat. full story

USA, California: The Department of Education has reached a settlement with a California school district over harassment of a transgender student. full story

USA, Florida: Orange County commissioners voted 5-2 Tuesday to support the legal battle on behalf of gay couples seeking marriage equality in Florida. full story

USA, Florida: The Hillsborough County Commission will hold its final vote on a Domestic Partnership Registry today. full story

USA, Idaho: Gov. Butch Otter will not appeal the 9th Circuit Court of Appeal’s most recent decision to lift the state’s ban on marriage equality. full story

USA, Missouri: The Springfield City Council has just passed a bill 6-3 that expands the city’s nondiscrimination ordinance to include protections for sexual orientation and gender identity. full story

USA, Nebraska: Lincoln Public School officials are standing behind their recommended strategies for helping trans and gender-nonconforming students feel more comfortable, despite conservative outrage. full story

USA, North Carolina: Governor Pat McCrory says it is his job to enforce ruling of US Supreme Court – “It’s a time for healing on all sides.” full story

USA, North Carolina: A magistrate in the state turned a gay couple away, saying “I won’t be performing your marriage because of my religious beliefs.” full story

USA, South Carolina: A Federal Judge gave attorneys until next week to file motions in the marriage equality case there, with three more weeks for responses. A hearing may come after that. full story

USA, washington DC: The Conversion Therapy for Minors Prohibition Amendment Act of 2013 is being considered by the City Council. full story

USA, Wyoming: Tomorrow, the federal District Court in Casper will consider whether the 10th Circuit Court of Appeals decisions in favor of marriage equality should apply to the state. full story

Vatican: After encouraging signs that the Catholic Church might be softening its tone on gays, conservative bishops have hit back hard. full story

Vatican: Andrew Sullivan has a nice wrap up of the reactions to the “relatio”, or document calling for more gay friendliness in the Church. full story


Historic – Active duty sailor routes equal opportunity charter for LGBT Military

Written by Sean Sala on October 14th, 2014
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Petty Officer Second Class Ann Foster (Middle) with fellow sailors. (Photo credit: Facebook)


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In a bold and historic move, active duty Sailor Fire Controlman Second Class Ann Foster has created and officially routed a request to the United States Navy seeking equal opportunity for active duty LGBT military members. Currently there is no protection clause in place to protect LGBT active duty members from discrimination.

Recently after the repeal of Don’t Ask Don’t Tell there has been a rampant amount of complaints about discrimination within the US Military, targeting gays and lesbians. As well Pride months have been denied at certain commands, while approved at others. The abuse against the LGBT Military community sadly in some cases has gotten worse. A Commander may not be able to kick you out because you are gay, but they can make your life a living hell.

This charter seeks the embodiment of the US Constitution and upholds the highest standards of Military service, paralleling the historic times of when African Americans and Women we’re protected in US Military charters.

Ann currently serves as the President of G.L.A.S.S. (Gay Lesbian and supporting servicemembers) which is the only official chartered LGBT group in the United States Navy. She also serves as the “National Active Duty Advisor” for the Military Freedom Coalition – a non political role.

“It is my hope that we can work together with Equal Opportunity to create protection for ALL service members regardless of sexual orientation” – Ann Foster 


See the historic charter below:



As it stands, the current Navy Equal Opportunity Policy, (NAVREGS Article 1164), does not include sexual orientation as a basis of non-discrimination. According to the reference, “Equal opportunity shall be afforded to all on the basis of effort, performance, conduct, diligence, potential, capabilities and talents without discrimination as to race, color, religion, creed, sex or national origin.” By excluding sexual orientation from this policy instances of harassment and discrimination are not protected and are, therefore, easily dismissible and overlooked by commands who do not wish to “deal with” LGBT (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender) issues at their commands.


1. Current regulations excluding LGBT service members from Equal Opportunity creates an uneven playing field which varies by command. Whereas one command may provide full support and resources for one LGBT service member, another command may look the other way when discrimination takes place against another LGBT service member. This creates an issue of continuity under equal treatment across the Navy.

2. The recent existence of policies, both nationally and within the military, that outright restricted and condemned the LGBT community created a culture that can not be removed overnight. There will be lingering prejudice for years to come and may never disappear. The only way to give all people Equal Opportunity is through a command managed program that allows service members the right to grievance or resolution free of personal bias.


1. Make a movement to include “sexual orientation” into the Navy’s current Equal Opportunity policy thus creating continuity between commands to protect against discrimination to all service members.

2. Provide easily accessible guidance and training for commands to implement the newly revised Equal Opportunity policy.


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Written by scott on October 14th, 2014

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One Way US Marriage Equality Could Still Lose

Written by scott on October 14th, 2014

US Supreme Court bwThe Supreme Court seems determined to bring marriage equality to the United States as slowly as possible. If they move too slowly, however, the forces of discrimination may be smiling in a few years.

Although the Court threw up some pretty clear signs last week that there are five justices who support marriage equality, that could change if one of those justices leaves the bench. And if they do so before they and their colleagues get around to actually saying that equality is required under the Constitution, it will be much easier for the newly constituted Court to halt — or even reverse — nearly 20 years of progress on gay rights.

To be sure, it’s difficult to exaggerate the importance of a two-sentence order the Supreme Court issued Friday allowing same-sex marriages to begin in Idaho. A few days earlier, a federal appeals court declared Idaho’s ban on same-sex marriage unconstitutional, and the state had asked the justices to put that decision on hold pending further review by the Supreme Court. When the justices told Idaho “no,” they delivered the second major blow to marriage discrimination in under a week. On Monday, the Court denied review of several lower court decisions siding with marriage equality — a denial that effectively made equality a constitutional requirement in 14 states.

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Seriously? What Marriage Equality Opponents Are Saying

Written by scott on October 14th, 2014

Seriously?Here’s the the latest in our ongoing series of some of the crazy things the anti-gay marriage equality opponents are saying and doing around the world.

God Sent Ebola to Punish Us for the Gays

Seriously, there are religious folks in Liberia who believe this:

The Daily Observer reports that church leaders at the meeting unanimously agreed “God is angry with Liberia” and concluded Ebola has been sent “as a plague” on the country. A statement detailing the resoloution summarised: “Liberians have to pray and seek God’s forgiveness over the corruption and immoral acts (such as homosexualism, etc.) that continue to penetrate our society… As Christians, we must repent and seek God’s forgiveness.”

It’s sickening that some people take advantage of a terrible crisis like the ebola plague to advance religious bigotry.

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Gays Should Be Drowned With a Millstone for Recruiting Kids

This is one of the more nasty anti-gay rants I’ve seen in a long time, from Dave Daubenmire:

“I just returned home with a group of hearty men from witnessing at the Homosexual Pride Parade in Springfield, Missouri. As usual, I was heartbroken by the age of those who have been captured by the ‘lifestyle.’ Take a look at these photos. Notice the young souls parading their sin in the public streets. It would have been better for these adults had they been drowned with a millstone around their necks than mislead one of these little ones. When we returned, I posted some of these images on my Facebook page. My intent was to prick the hearts of people to action. Homosexuality is gobbling up our young kids. There is nothing “gay” about it. They are being lured into a self-destructive behavior because they have bought the lie that homosexuality is normal. It isn’t. It is deviant. Someone needs to tell them, help them, and lead them to the truth. Our churches have turned a blind eye.”

What the fuck is wrong with these people? Thankfully they are an ever-shrinking minority

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Gays Will Marry Themselves

Witness Brian Brown’s latest tweet idiocy:

“When #marriage is redefined, what prevents a person from “marrying” his/herself?”

This, of course, has spawned a whole new meme on Twitter: #WhenIMarry Myself. See some of the hilarious responses here. My favorite? #WhenIMarryMyself, I’m going to ask @brianbrown to walk me down the aisle and I’m going to legally compell @PeterLaBarbera to be flower girl.” –Dan Savage

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Marriage Equality Round-Up 10/13/14

Written by scott on October 14th, 2014

Gay Wedding - RingsHere’s our daily quick round-up of the marriage equality and LGBT rights stories that don’t warrant a full posting on the blog, or that we just didn’t have time to add. We’re able to get more news and analysis to you this way every day – enjoy!

Worldwide: The World Bank has been criticized for ignoring LGBT issues. full story

Kyrgyzstan: The US Embassy has criticized proposed “gay propaganda” legislation in the former Soviet nation. full story

Russia: Anti gay “pastor” Scott Lively is starring in “Sodom”, a new anti-gay documentary that aired on Russian television last month. full story

Russia: LGBT activists were detained in Moscow during a gay rights protest. full story

Turkey: The country has a new umbrella organization established to fight homophobia and transphobia. full storyUSA: full story

Turkey: A gay couple lost their jobs, were evicted from their home and are facing death threats from their family for having a symbolic wedding. full story

UK: Psychic Sally Morgan fired her husband and son-in-law following a homophobic rant at a sceptic. full story

UK, Scotland: Government to scrap “spousal veto” for transgender spouses. full story

USA: The National LGBTQ Task Force issued an apology for a blog post that drew criticism from many bisexual activists and commentators. full story

USA: Equality on Trial looks at some of the upcoming marriage equality hearings. full story

USA, Alaska: Alaska’s Governor is appealing the marriage equality decision from yesterday to the Ninth Circuit. full story

USA, Alaska: The plaintiffs in the marriage equality case were the first in line to get a marriage license. full story

USA, Colorado: A young boy in Denver, Colorado, worked his magic to help his parents get married last week. full story

USA, Florida: Attorney General Pam Bondi is reversing course and asking the state Supreme Court to decide the pending marriage equality cases. full story

USA, Idaho: Same sex weddings will officially begin Wednesday, after the 9th Circuit officially lifted the stay. full story

USA, Kansas: The American Civil Liberties Union has asked a federal court to order Kansas to allow same-sex couples to wed while the lawsuit proceeds. full story

USA, Nevada: Anti-gay activists are claiming the Ninth Circuit stacked the deck against them. full story

USA, North Carolina: Although a Federal Judge lifted the state’s marriage equality ban last week, several legal cases still await resolution. full story

USA, Texas: The marriage equality case is on track to be heard late next month or in December, probably before the same federal appellate judges who will consider a contrary ruling from Louisiana. full story

USA, Texas: A gay couple in Houston was kicked out of a taxi for kissing and told they would go to hell. full story

USA, Wisconsin: For the purpose of amending past tax returns, some 500 same-sex couples who married in the state, in June will have their marriages recognized, Governor Walker said. full story


Dallas Pride and the “Dangers” Thereof – gay men in speedos:

Written by Sean Sala on October 13th, 2014


Dallas Pride and the “Dangers” Thereof – gay men in speedos:

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I was born in Oklahoma, in a little town called Edmond near Oklahoma City and Moore. My family eventually moved around the country here and there, including a stint in Colorado. Being the staunch Evangelical family we were, we attended Pastor Ted Haggard’s “New Life” Church. I still remember being a little guy looking up at the ceiling with flags hanging from all over the world as the Evangelical pastors prayed fervently that other nations would convert to Evangelicalism.

We eventually settled in Dallas, Texas. There, I attended a private Christian school called “Carrollton Christian Academy” which is still in existence today (just in a different location).

I was taught my whole life this one view on sexuality: Marriage is the only blessed from where sex can happen, marriage is between a man and a woman – period.

Now remember, the nation was very different back then. We as a country were still under the legalistic maul of many of the early patriarchs of Evangelical leaders like Dr. James Dobson, Robert Tilton, The Bakers, and so on. So while “marriage was the only blessed form of sex” there certainly was no talk of “blow jobs,” anal sex, “nipple-rides” or anything of a campy sexual nature that addressed this thing called “foreplay.” While the Evangelical movement blessed “sex” as long as it was under their parameters, even speaking about sex in any way – including for education was deeply shunned.

So there I sat. I had no idea I was gay then and I didn’t even know what it meant to be gay. The first time I remember being called gay was when I was in the 5th grade. I was called gay by a very popular kid, so what did I do? I ruined that kids social life.

Like I said, I didn’t know what it meant to be gay, but I just knew that it was “deeply evil” and something to be “reviled.” This is what I was taught.

Today I am an open, out, proud gay man and I am also very open, accepting and educating when it comes to human sexuality. But this wasn’t always the case. I was raised to shame the pregnant girl, shun anyone who thought sex was for pleasure and that strippers or adult film stars were the most evil thing to walk the planet.

Frequently in churches, I was shown dramatic and “jaw dropping” videos of “evil gay pride parades” – images of men in leather, images of men in speedos, etc. (Oh the horror I know!).

Years later, while I was on the tail end of my military service I organized the first ever Military contingent in a Pride parade in the History of the United States.  The thing that caused me to really confront this needed change was because when I went to San Diego Pride for the first time, I had never been to a Pride celebration before. I was fed images of “terror,” remember?

Well coming to this Pride celebration, I saw the men in leather, I saw the men in speedos half naked. But I also saw families, churches, policemen, fire fighters, public officials, congress members, seniors, women, blacks, whites, Asians, Christians, Jews, Unitarians, and so much more. I saw what the Rainbow flag meant: Equality for EVERYONE – a magical thing called “diversity” that I never learned in Dallas and I never learned in the military.

In the summer of 2011, there was a fire in Hillcrest. A popular and iconic bookstore in the local gay community named “Obelisk” had burned down. It had just recently seen a change of ownership as well. The store was known to be full of novelty items, sexual art, and adult films tucked away in the back. I remember when the new owner announced that upon rebuilding he was going to change a lot of things, including removing the pornography from the back of the store. Upon seeing this I posted on Facebook something to the effect of: “Glad to see Obelisk is removing porn from their bookstores. Especially since San Diego Pride is becoming more “family friendly.” I truly thought nothing of the post. Hours later, I learned that boy was I wrong.

At that same time, I had experienced a pretty big influx of social media followings, news media, and the like talking to me because of my activism with the military contingent at San Diego Pride. This led to a lot of people looking at what I was saying. I was early in this game, so I really had no idea that I was “being watched.”

There was a slew of comments, many from much older gay men, who were very angry at what I had said. Many of them called me uneducated, and a “young idiot” and so forth since I thought that porn had no place in San Diego Pride. One comment really stood out to me though:

“Porn is our heritage.”

Starting a Sexual Revolution Begins With Education

The first thing I honestly thought was “what the hell is this guy talking about? How can an adult film be your heritage?” I thought the guy was a complete idiot. We exchanged some Facebook conversation back and forth and he told me to “read up.”

And I did.

Years later I have returned to Dallas periodically. I had reconnected with a lot of friends growing up in the Dallas-Fort Worth area and I have made a lot of new ones. Every time I went to Dallas, I still had so much pain, fear and honestly I was a little terrified. I would have been reluctant to admit it then, but the years of religious abuse really did leave me scared. It does to this day. Dallas gave me some posttraumatic stress.

While I have had a big amount of support from people when I came out, there are those who won’t speak to me anymore. They don’t say why, but I know why.

Recently the Dallas gay Pride parade has come under some heavy fire about their handling of “family friendly” pride celebrations. The controversy surrounding is was rumored to be “should we ban men in speedos” and “we need to make Pride less sexual.” Something that upset MANY gays and lesbians in the Oaklawn area – yet I noticed a steady group of leadership in the area was reinforcing that Pride celebrations cannot be sexual because we “want families there” and “what about the children?” I saw some liberal activists go NUTS on Dallas Pride.

So what is the answer to all of this? It’s two-fold.

Separating sexuality from Pride events is not the full story:


Umm…. Last time I checked an LGBT Pride parade was not about celebrating your anniversary, your sales pitch, nor a baby shower, it is about celebrating being LGBT and SEXUALITY. It kind of is a comical position when people say that sexual undertones Is “trashy” for Dallas Pride.

Pride parades have been an essential part of the gay rights movement. Trust someone who had dealt first hand with seeing a small idea such as a military contingent change America – Pride parades have impact. The more liberal areas of the United States sparked Pride. Was it easy? Absolutely not. Even the MOST CONSERVATIVE Pride celebrations were considered to be a band of “pedophiles and sexual deviants.”

Think about how people simply walking down the street were considered to be “hated by God” and “child molesters.” Yet in other Pride events, the skimpy clothes and open sexuality actually did spark a conversation nationwide in the American community. When people started to say, “I like to do X,Y,Z with men” and “I like to do X,Y,Z with women.” That actually was birthed before from the sexual revolution. Which paved the way and CREATED the modern gay rights movement. There would be NO PRIDE EVENTS nor modern gay rights movement if it was not for the boldness of activists who stood up in a sexual revolution saying “I like to have sex with men (or women).” Such a phrase may seem kind of typical to us these days, but to declare that then made those activists equivalent to someone who wanted to rape a child in the eyes of many. The boldness of sexuality has lead to marriage equality. Not conservative values, but bold, open, sexuality.


People that believed in Harvey Milk were not “family friendly”:


Harvey Milk is all over the modern media now. He has gained civil rights equivalency to Martin Luther King Jr. in being awarded the posthumous Presidential Medal of Freedom. During his life, though, he was considered a deviant. Even modern conservatives still today say he was a child predator (they still try to use that tired argument against us).

Yet Harvey Milk stood up and fought in one of the most liberal areas of the country at the time (still not open to the LGBT community). In the film “Milk,” viewers see images of gay men being hauled into police vans, sparking the Stonewall Movement – our gay civil rights movement. When Harvey began to stand up and demand equal justice, it was not the churches, the families and so forth who stood with him. It was the porn stars, the pot heads, the poor, LGBT teens that had been rejected, transgender men and women and drag queens who stood with him.

To sum it up, the REJECTS of society stood with Harvey for the message of the Constitution, when the majority of the country delighted in demoralizing, demonizing and instituting structural and direct violence against the LGBT community. The only people that stood with the modern day civil rights icon were those who were the FARTHEST from being “family friendly.”

We assume that people who are open and educated on sex and gender are not family friendly. Yet, they themselves play a role in their own lives in their own families. Many of us were rejected by our families. In the words of RuPaul, “LGBT people get to choose our families.” Our families are not less because they don’t have the picket fence. Our families are just as important, refugees of oppression.


What about the children though?

Every parent has a right to raise their child as they see fit. On that note, I hope parents will consider this and I mean it with the utmost respect for their role in their child’s lives.

You go to a Pride parade and you see a man in a speedo and you SHIELD your child’s eyes before the “neon green speedo gets into their soul!”


  • You take a family trip to a beach full of speedos, but you only shield the child’s eyes if it’s at an LGBT Pride parade. (Ironic, isn’t it?)
  • When you walk by a mentally ill homeless person you tell your child “look at that lazy bum.”
  • When you hear rap music you tell your child “they are a bunch of worthless N*****s.” You see no problem with that? What kind of “Southern values” are you teaching?
  • When you attend Church a message that “Jesus was a capitalist” reinforces that poor people are disgusting, evil creatures. When Jesus Himself defended the validity and significance of the poor. They are a part of our society. Period. Jesus demanded that we care for them. By the way, Jesus was neither Capitalist or Liberal. He was above all of that.
  • You tell your child that the teenage girl who got pregnant in high school “is a whore.” Yet you were the father that had sex with many girls in high school and just won no pregnancy by the luck of the draw.

There are SO MANY THINGS in society that are wrong. I have met more evil Pastors using the message of Jesus to embezzle money, cheat on their wives, use Christianity to make millions off the backs of naive seniors citizens and others than I have met “evil porn stars.” Some of whom give more money to charity then some life-long Christians I know. We are so obsessed with demonizing people who are open and educated on sexuality, when instead we have children in America going to bed hungry every night.

We have much bigger priorities than to:

#1 Pretend that sexuality is evil,

#2 Act like humans don’t have sex, and

#3 Trash the liberators that lead to your gay son, daughter, cousin, Father, Mother – who now live in a world that is more open and accepting to LGBT people.

Think, did you lift a finger to make it a better world for LGBT people? The early sexual liberators laid down their lives and their names. You didn’t. Until you can sacrifice your life to stand up for expression, you really don’t have room to judge.

Finally, there is nothing wrong with being a Conservative family:

Conservative families are beautiful. I love them. I came from one. During our good years, we were really blessed people. Marriage is an amazing thing that the gay and lesbian community has fought for because we see that. We want that and we want to be recognized for our love too. Yet that does not mean that the establishment of what has been only straight society gets to demean and demand that gays act a certain way and do everything by the code to which they demand. Straight society does not get that they may be pro LGBT mostly now, but it was the rules and behavior modifications that they produced that lead to the suicides, the gender discrimination against women and so forth.

Moral of the story: There are people dying in our streets. We have a lot of work to do. The churches have a lot of work to do, rather than focus on men in neon green speedos.

Oh, and there also was that part of the Bible where Jesus said “judge not, lest ye be judged.” You’ll take so many passages literally, but when it comes to love, acceptance and understanding, you’d rather ignore that one. There also is this thing called “slut shaming” that Jesus never did. In fact, he spoke against it. (He who is without sin cast the first stone.)

Oh and by the way. It’s just a body.

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Featured Gay Friendly Wedding Vendor: Reverend Susan Varon, Taos, New Mexico

Written by scott on October 13th, 2014

Rev. Susan Varon - TaosPeriodically we’ll feature one of our vendors here to let our readers know about some great people who can help you plan the perfect wedding.

Gay Wedding Officiants in Taos, NM, USA. I create, with you, a joyful, one-of-a-kind ceremony of love. Spiritual or romantic, traditional or light-hearted–secular, ecumenical, or multicultural. Please see the two sample weddings on my website, as well as the many Testimonials!

See Reverend Susan’s Expanded Listing on Purple Unions Here

Gay Friendly Wedding Vendors in New Mexico