Yesterday, we reported on a man who was taken to jail after his partner’s family tried to take over his care. Today Zack Ford at Think Progress has the details of what happened, and it’s worse than we’d thought. Some of the details:
There has been a lot of speculation as to what actually transpired when Roger Gorley was arrested away from his husband Allen’s bedside in a Missouri hospital earlier this week. Despite the fact Roger and Allen have granted each other power of attorney for medical decisions, the Research Medical Center claimed that Roger was “disruptive and belligerent,” arguing that is why the police arrested him and removed him from the facility. Now, Roger’s daughter Amanda has shared a detailed account of what transpired that paints a picture even more offensive than many may have imagined. The full account can be read here as well as some additional details she shared in an interview with blogger John Aravosis.
What happened when the family arrived?
Lee [Allen's brother] asserted that he was not going to allow Roger to make decisions for Allen and that he would instead. This enraged Roger, who replied, “No you won’t! This is my husband. I know what he wants and needs. You are never around. You need to leave.” The nurse informed Roger that because of his agitated state, he needed to leave. When he explained that he intended to stay with his husband, she replied, “I know who you two are. You need to leave.” Refusing to acknowledge their legal relationship, she called the police to have Roger forcibly removed. Allen, who was in and out of consciousness, objected as he was able, saying, “I want him here.” A follow-up story from Fox 4 suggests that Roger and Lee were having a loud fight, but doesn’t otherwise contradict this account.
He also has more details about why Allen was in the hospital in the first place, and his explicit desire to block his family from making medical decisions for him:
Allen suffers from severe depression and is currently undergoing electro-shock treatment (ECT) twice a month because his medications are no longer allowing him to function normally. Allen has specifically excluded his family from having any say over his medical decisions because they have not been understanding of the impact of his depression. Not only have Roger and Allen granted each other power of attorney, but they are known throughout the hospital as a proud gay couple because they are regularly there for Allen’s treatments. Allen’s family has not been supportive of his relationship with Roger.
Read the whole thing here. It’s sickening that this couple was treated this way.
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