Single Dad Asks for Advice on Helping Son Come Out

Written by scott on November 18th, 2014

nowpostThis story will warm your heart – a father accidentally discovered his son was gay, and then asked the internet how to help him come out.

Pink News reports:

Reddit user HeMeYou was left “overwhelmed” by advice from online strangers after accidentally discovering his son might be gay. Buzzfeed reports the 38-year-old father posed the question to Reddit after finding Google searches on his son’s iPad suggesting he wanted to come out. He said: “I found out my 13 y/o son is gay… He hasn’t told me, but I want to support him. What can I do?”

Ultimately, the father opened up the conversation with his son:

At the dinner table the same day, while we were eating we had a couple minutes of silence, not much was heard apart from the cutlery and my son finally said “I actually wanted to tell you something in the car, but I was afraid you’d get in an accident..”

I looked up from my plate and looked at him straight in the eyes… I could see he was thinking about something and all I could think of was “OMG this is it…”

He said “Dad..” with a couple seconds of silence “..I’m gay”.

I looked at him and couldn’t help myself from smiling, and I told him “____, you know I love you so much… right?” and I got up and gave him a huge hug. He even started to cry on my shoulder and because of that I couldn’t help myself but shed a couple tears.

What an awesome Dad.

Concluding his post, he said: “After dinner and after he finished his homework we both lay in our pyjamas on the sofa, while I was watching the Cooking Channel and he was playing on his iPad. “I had my arm around him and he was leaning his head on my chest, and all I could think of was that I’m the happiest father on earth right now.”


5 Comments so far ↓

  1. Eric Osterberg says:

    This is how it should happen. May the father and son have many wonderful years of happiness.

  2. William Salto says:

    You… ROCK, Sir!!!
    Your son, is very lucky, to have a great Dad, like you!

  3. Henry Saunders says:

    if only all parents were the same the world would be a better place.

  4. Carol Green says:


    Defy discrimination. Boycott bigotry.
    Denounce dogma. Banish bullies.

    Cultivate change. Encourage empathy.
    Inspire insight. Revitalize reason. Deactivate disinformation.
    Deconstruct preconceptions. Reconstruct character.

    Rediscover self. Purge pain.
    Explore scruples. Disengage guilt.
    Close chapters. Open closets.

    Humanize homosexuality.
    Nurture narratives. Champion paragons.
    Rekindle respect. Demand dignity.

    Mend families. Compel comrades. Rally allies.
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    Shift paradigms. Reset standards. Envision equality.
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    Trust time. Practice persistence. Pledge patience.
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    Welcome awakening. Recognize redemption.
    Laugh fearlessly. Liberate love!

    Transform tradition. Civilize civilization.
    Embrace enlightenment. Reshape reality.

    –Carol Anne, Retired California Teacher, 66, Heterosexual

  5. Carol Green says:

    Paradigm Shift Toward Marriage Equality

    I was once a bigot. My parents and my era taught me wrong. In the expanse of a long life, I woke up and changed my mind. In penance for my youthful zealotry, I am compelled to share this insight with other bigots so they will recognize blindness to be a necessary step toward their enlightenment. I was once blind. But now I see.

    The unenlightened mistakenly superimpose onto the Modern Age antiquated conventions of 100+ generations past once forged by an emerging, but naïve, sometimes barbaric, culture of man. Today, this festering anachronism persecutes innocent homosexuals who suffer daily bigotry, hatred, and death because of worn-out beliefs.

    The paradigm shift has unique sensations about it. When brainwashed bigots begin the course of illumination, they resist. Goodness willing, slowly over decades — through observation, insight, reason, empathy, compassion, understanding, and release — the mind begins to open. The shoulders let go the heavy weight of prejudice. The heart lays bare its natural desire to love and treat everyone equally. And, the soul ascends briefly into Samadhi, Nirvana, Paradise, for a glimpse. Then comes awakening! A new perspective. Acceptance, appreciation, and celebration of our diverse humanity replace prejudice, animosity, and hatred. Cleansing of human character occurs within the evolution of the human mind.

    The present day paradigm shift will bring FREEDOM FOR ALL, not just the “chosen ones.” Thanks to the wisdom and courage of a majority of Supreme Court justices!

    — Retired California Teacher, Heterosexual

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