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I May Not Always Understand My Gay Son, But I Accept Him

Saturday, September 13th, 2014

Gay RightsI picked up my 20-something son, David, at the Metro a few weeks ago. After he got into the car, he put out his hands towards me, and asked:

“Do you like this color? Kind of a deep purple. I get a lot of compliments on it.”
Yes, David wears nail polish — bright, glossy, frequently-changing-colors nail polish. And it doesn’t bother me. In fact, I like the deep purple shade.

When David first told us he was gay in his junior year in high school, my husband and I were somewhat surprised, but when we thought about it, it began to make sense. At first I worried about the increased chances that he would develop AIDS and I was concerned about problems he would likely face being accepted as a gay man in the less tolerant world we lived in a decade ago. But the gay part? We had an inkling. Okay, more than an inkling. (What parent doesn’t?)

As an avid reader and news-watcher, I did have some knowledge of the evolving gay community. I was aware of the AIDS crisis in the 1980s, I remember when Barney Frank became the first U.S. congressman to come out as gay in 1987 and when a New York Court ruled in 1989 that it was legally possible for a same-sex couple to constitute a family.

Authored By Nancy L. Wolf – See the Full Story at The Washington Post

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New Poll: Almost 90% of Chinese Accept Gays

Friday, September 5th, 2014

titleA new poll out of China shows that almost 90% of young people there accept gays and lesbians.

Gay Star News reports:

An overwhelming majority of Chinese young people are fine with gay people, according to a recent survey. About 87% of respondents said they accepted gay people, compared to 13% who said they did not understand homosexuality. The survey was conducted by internet giant Baidu, the Chinese version of Google and Wikipedia, and asked 7,000 internets users born in the 1990s their views on love, friendship, consumption, family and employment.

No word on whether that support extends to marriage equality.

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Just Because He Breathes: Learning to Truly Love Our Gay Son

Tuesday, July 2nd, 2013

2013-06-21-ryanprofile1Our friend Arturo Schultz ran across this and shared it with us. It’s beautiful and wonderful and heartbreaking, as a Christian family struggles to come to terms with their gay son. From the Huffington Post – after reuniting with their now-adult son:

Over the next 10 months, we learned to truly love our son. Period. No buts. No conditions. Just because he breathes. We learned to love whomever our son loved. And it was easy. What I had been so afraid of became a blessing. The journey wasn’t without mistakes, but we had grace for each other, and the language of apology and forgiveness became a natural part of our relationship. As our son pursued recovery from drug and alcohol addiction, we pursued him. God taught us how to love him, to rejoice over him, to be proud of the man he was becoming. We were all healing, and most importantly, Ryan began to think that if we could forgive him and love him, then maybe God could, too.

Read the whole thing. It will touch your heart – if only every family with a newly-outed child would read this…

Pew Releases New Survey On Homosexuality in 39 Countries

Wednesday, June 5th, 2013

titlePew Polling asked citizens in 39 countries what they thought about homosexuality. Joe.My.God reports:

Attitudes about homosexuality have been fairly stable in recent years, except in South Korea, the United States and Canada, where the percentage saying homosexuality should be accepted by society has grown by at least ten percentage points since 2007. These are among the key findings of a new survey by the Pew Research Center conducted in 39 countries among 37,653 respondents from March 2 to May 1, 2013. The survey also finds that acceptance of homosexuality is particularly widespread in countries where religion is less central in people’s lives.

The countries with the highest rates of acceptance include Spain, Germany, and the Czech Republic, Canada, France, Australia, and Britain. The US is tied at 13th.

Pew Poll - Homosexuality

My Father’s Journey

Wednesday, December 26th, 2012

Frank BruniFrom Out NY Times Columnist Frank Bruni:

IN the years before Mom died, I had my first long-term relationship, and I could tell that seeing me coupled, just like my brothers and my sister were, gave him a new, less abstract way to understand me. I just wanted what they wanted. Someone special.

He welcomed the man I was with effusively. Took the two of us out to eat.

Then Mom was gone, and all the parenting fell to Dad. He tapped reserves I’d never imagined in him. When I broke up with the man he’d been so effusive toward, he must have told me six times how sorry he was about that. It was a message — that he was rooting for my happiness, no matter how that happiness came to me.

What he struggled most with, he admitted to me over our lunch, was his worry about what others would think of me, of him, of our family. His Italian-immigrant parents had been fanatics about the face a person presented to the world — the “bella figura,” as Italians say — and when I would write candidly about my life, as I did on occasion, he’d flinch a bit. Still does.

But he has decided that such writing is necessary. “There’s prejudice out there, and it’s good to fight that,” he said, adding that visibility and openness are obviously integral to that battle. “I’m convinced that people who don’t accept gays just don’t really know any of them.”

Authored By Frank Bruni – See the Full Story at The New York Times

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USA: New Poll Says 59% of Latinos Say Gays Should Be Accepted By Society

Friday, April 6th, 2012

New York Gay Marriage PollLatinos are more likely than other Americans to say they’re liberal, according to a poll out Wednesday. Three out of 10 Latino adults say they consider themselves liberal compared to 21 percent of the general U.S. public, the Pew Hispanic Center’s 2011 National Survey of Latinos poll found. And more native-born Hispanics than immigrant Hispanics say they are “very liberal” or “liberal,” 34 percent to 27 percent.

Three out of 10 Latino adults say they consider themselves liberal, compared with 21 percent of the general U.S. public, the Pew Hispanic Center’s 2011 National Survey of Latinos poll found. And more U.S.-born Hispanics than Hispanic immigrants say they are “very liberal” or “liberal,” 34 percent to 27 percent.

Looking at the other end of the spectrum, 32 percent of Hispanics say their political views are “very conservative” or “conservative,” and 34 percent of all U.S. adults say the same. Meanwhile, Latinos born in another country are more likely than those born in the U.S. to describe themselves as conservative, with 35 percent to 28 percent.

Full Story from Politico

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Nepal: Moving Toward Acceptance of its LBGT Citizens

Sunday, May 16th, 2010

Pressure to conform to societal norms and be ‘normal’ affects our lives significantly. Not surprisingly as a teenager growing up in an orthodox Hindu family in rural Nepal, Basant also tried to fit in – but something was amiss.

Wearing boys’ clothes and playing football didn’t interest him. He is confused no more and doesn’t try to conform. Eight years after leaving home, Basant, now 24, has transformed to Basanti and is a busy beautician in Kathmandu.

The story, however, is not all that positive for Nepal’s estimated one million plus sexual minority population which includes lesbians, gays, bi-sexuals, trans-gendered and inter-sexed – all clubbed as LGBTIs.

Full Story from the Hindustan Times

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