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Adorable Teen Couple: Soccer Player Dances With Homecoming King

Thursday, December 18th, 2014

Michael and Jem

A gay teen soccer player in West Virginia came out with his boyfriend, the Homecoming King, at the high school dance.

Outsports reports:

It was something I thought I’d never do — dance a slow dance with the homecoming king at his high school. I am an 18-year-old senior all-state high school soccer goalie for Musselman High School in West Virginia. I also have been on the school’s football, tennis and swim teams. And I am openly gay. Growing up in rural West Virginia, it’s not the easiest place to be a gay teenager and it took me a long time to come out to myself and others.

Yet there we were, Jem and I, on an October night this fall, slow dancing with each other. We attend schools in different counties and met through friends and I was thrilled that he asked me to his dance so we could be together. He was wearing his gray vest and pink bow tie while I had on my black shirt with a gold tie. We danced to “Love Story” by Taylor Swift, which was a perfect song for my first dance with a guy.

We both started the dance with our female friends who were our “dates.” The final song came on and Jem and I danced for a brief time. It was my first school event where I was with another guy, even though we came to the dance separately. I held his hand when we went to get refreshments and when we took breaks from dancing. It was a weird feeling for me, since I had just barely started coming out. I was nervous yet excited. After the dance we went to his house. That is where I asked him to be my boyfriend. I posed the question by writing it on the dry erase board on his wall. He quickly said yes.

This story was just too adorable not to share – read the whole thing. This is why we fight.

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Single Dad Asks for Advice on Helping Son Come Out

Tuesday, November 18th, 2014

nowpostThis story will warm your heart – a father accidentally discovered his son was gay, and then asked the internet how to help him come out.

Pink News reports:

Reddit user HeMeYou was left “overwhelmed” by advice from online strangers after accidentally discovering his son might be gay. Buzzfeed reports the 38-year-old father posed the question to Reddit after finding Google searches on his son’s iPad suggesting he wanted to come out. He said: “I found out my 13 y/o son is gay… He hasn’t told me, but I want to support him. What can I do?”

Ultimately, the father opened up the conversation with his son:

At the dinner table the same day, while we were eating we had a couple minutes of silence, not much was heard apart from the cutlery and my son finally said “I actually wanted to tell you something in the car, but I was afraid you’d get in an accident..”

I looked up from my plate and looked at him straight in the eyes… I could see he was thinking about something and all I could think of was “OMG this is it…”

He said “Dad..” with a couple seconds of silence “..I’m gay”.

I looked at him and couldn’t help myself from smiling, and I told him “____, you know I love you so much… right?” and I got up and gave him a huge hug. He even started to cry on my shoulder and because of that I couldn’t help myself but shed a couple tears.

What an awesome Dad.

Concluding his post, he said: “After dinner and after he finished his homework we both lay in our pyjamas on the sofa, while I was watching the Cooking Channel and he was playing on his iPad. “I had my arm around him and he was leaning his head on my chest, and all I could think of was that I’m the happiest father on earth right now.”

Before and After Gay

Saturday, August 23rd, 2014

Emerson-CollinsComing out is a right of passage for gay men and women — an experience as nearly universal as it is unique for each person. The process invariably began with the moment where the journey from self-discovery to self-awareness finally coalesces in self-acceptance and the readiness to speak the words. It began the first time we spoke the phrase “I’m gay” aloud to another human being.

Despite the shared experience, the nature of the journey is specific to each of us. Coming out stories run the gamut from those who kicked the closet door off its hinges in six-inch platform stilettos to those who cracked the door open just far enough to let in those nearest and dearest. A nearly infinite number of factors impact how we do it, when we do it, the words we choose, the people we share with and the choices we make once we were received.

That moment draws a line through our lives when our personal timeline suddenly has “Before Gay” and “After Gay” — our own internal birth which allows us to divide the important events, decisions and people on the calendar of our life by whether they happened B.G. or A.G. For the most fortunate among us, it’s a line in the sand. But when the fury of the coming out storm dies down, love and acceptance smooth the sand again and the line is gone. Before Gay and After Gay are one journey with events and people running continuously from one into the other.

Authored By Emerson Collins – See the Full Story at The Dallas Voice

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Bisexuals Need to Come Out

Sunday, August 10th, 2014

Bisexual…But part of it really does point to a long-standing challenge when it comes to bisexual visibility: Your sexuality may exist inside your head, but most people are going to judge your orientation by who you’re partnered with. And so monogamous married people tend to “read” as gay or straight, but some may actually be bisexual. “When you’re bisexual or pansexual, but you’re in a long-term relationship, your bi/pansexuality can become invisible,” Greta Christina, the author of Coming Out Atheist and expert on all things coming out sexuality-related or not, explained to me. “People often assume that you’re gay or straight, based on who you’re involved with now–and it kind of eradicates your history and your identity.”

This is a problem because, as the gay rights movement has shown, visibility helps–a lot. There are many myths that proliferate about bisexuals, including the myth that they are oversexed and can’t be monogamous, a myth that King was pushing with this line of questioning whether he intended to or not. These myths exist in no small part because there aren’t a lot of visible bisexuals to act as a counterpoint. Many of the uglier myths about gay people have faded in recent years as more gay people have come out and forced people who believed in ugly myths to rethink their opinions. Having just one out gay friend or family member, for instance, doubles the chance a person supports the right to same-sex marriage.

Christina, who writes about these issues frequently at her website, says that the importance of visibility is a major concern. “I sometimes find myself working my bisexuality into my conversations and my writing, even in awkward and irrelevant ways, just to make it visible. ‘As a bisexual, I prefer roasted vegetables to steamed ones.’ That’s silly–but it’s better than entire swaths of my self and my life being eradicated.”

Authored By Amanda Marcotte – See the Full Story at the Daily Beast

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Coming Out as a Gay Republican

Friday, June 13th, 2014

GOProudOne of the hardest times in my life was when I came out. I had lots of friends who loved me and accepted me, but how could I know if they would love and accept me when a major secret regarding who I am was exposed? Millions of men and women across the country had been ostracized and ignored for what I was about to tell my inner circle, but I came out anyway.

“Friends,” I said, “I’m tired of hiding from you, and I’m tired of living a lie. I am a Republican.”

For LGBT Republicans like me, coming out of the Republican closet is often as difficult, if not more difficult, than coming out of the gay closet.

Perhaps the most irritating thing about being a gay Republican is the one question that we are often asked: “Why are you a gay Republican? If you care about equality for the LGBT community, then why aren’t you a Democrat?”

By Jeff Davis – Full Story at The Dallas Voice

Peru Civil Unions Sponsor Comes Out

Monday, May 19th, 2014

Peruvian Congressman Carlos Bruce

Photo courtesy of the Congreso de la Rep├║blica del Peru

The sponsor of the Peru civil unions bill is gay.

The Washington Blade reports:

The primary sponsor of a bill that would allow same-sex couples to enter into civil unions in Peru has come out as gay. “Yes, I am gay and I am proud to belong to this group of people who are so valuable to Peru,” said Congressman Carlos Bruce during an interview the Peruvian newspaper El Comercio published on Sunday. Bruce — a member of the centrist Possible Peru Alliance who represents Lima, the Peruvian capital — told the newspaper his two sons support his decision to come out. The congressman also reiterated his criticisms of Lima Archbishop Juan Luis Cipriani who opposes the civil unions bill.

Politically, do you think it’s more valuable for the sponsor of gay rights legislation to be gay, or to be a straight ally?

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80-year-old Grandfather Gets Equality Sign In Solidarity With Gay Grandson

Friday, April 25th, 2014

Grandfather gets equality tattooAfter his grandson came out to him, a grandfather got an equality tattoo to support him.

Towleroad.com reports:

Watch as my partner Joe’s almost 80-year old Grandfather gets tattoed to show his support for gay rights. About a month ago, Joe got an equal sign tattoo in support of human equality, and Grandpa Frank wanted to show his love and support, too. The world is really blessed to have people like Frank, who not only love unconditionally, but also accept everyone for who they are.

What an amazing Grandfather! This totally made me cry.

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UK: Grandfather Writes Beautiful Letter in Support of Gay Grandson

Friday, April 18th, 2014

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After a boy’s mother threw him out of the house for being gay, his Grandfather wrote a beautiful letter in support of his grandson.

The Gay UK reports:

In the letter he calls his daughter an ‘abomination’, after she threw her son, Chad, out of her home after he told her that he was gay. The father went on to say: ‘The only intelligent thing I heard you saying in all this was that you “didn’t raise your son to be gay” . Of course you didn’t. He was born this way and didn’t choose it any more than being left handed.’

This grandfather puts the boy’s mother to shame.

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Just Because He Breathes: Learning to Truly Love Our Gay Son

Tuesday, July 2nd, 2013

2013-06-21-ryanprofile1Our friend Arturo Schultz ran across this and shared it with us. It’s beautiful and wonderful and heartbreaking, as a Christian family struggles to come to terms with their gay son. From the Huffington Post – after reuniting with their now-adult son:

Over the next 10 months, we learned to truly love our son. Period. No buts. No conditions. Just because he breathes. We learned to love whomever our son loved. And it was easy. What I had been so afraid of became a blessing. The journey wasn’t without mistakes, but we had grace for each other, and the language of apology and forgiveness became a natural part of our relationship. As our son pursued recovery from drug and alcohol addiction, we pursued him. God taught us how to love him, to rejoice over him, to be proud of the man he was becoming. We were all healing, and most importantly, Ryan began to think that if we could forgive him and love him, then maybe God could, too.

Read the whole thing. It will touch your heart – if only every family with a newly-outed child would read this…

Nevada, USA: Senate Votes 12-9 To Repeal Marriage Equality Ban As Lawmaker Comes Out

Tuesday, April 23rd, 2013

Nevada State Senator Kelvin AtkinsonThe move to repeal Nevada’s ban on same-sex marriages move forward yesterday, as the Senate voted 12 to 9 to approve the measure. During the debate, Sen. Kelvin Atkinson came out. Towleroad reports:

One Republican joined with Democrats to vote in favor of the resolution and lawmakers debated for more than an hour. The debate included this, the Las Vegas Sun reports: In a particularly emotional moment, Sen. Kelvin Atkinson, D-North Las Vegas, publicly declared for the first time that he is gay. “I’m black. I’m gay,” Atkinson said in a trembling voice after describing his father’s interracial re-marriage that would have been banned earlier in American history. “I know this is the first time many of you have heard me say that I am a black, gay male.”

As we mentioned before, even if the bill get support in both houses, it will need to be re-approved in 2015, and then will go before the voters in 2016.

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