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NY: Gay Visibility Helped Change Minds on Marriage Equality

Sunday, June 26th, 2011

Frank BruniIN the mid-1980s, when I was in college, what concerned and frustrated my peers and me was how few states had basic statutes forbidding discrimination against gay men and lesbians: laws that merely prevented someone from being denied a job or apartment on the basis of whom he or she loved. At that point only Wisconsin and the District of Columbia provided such protection. The decade would end with just one addition, Massachusetts, to that meager list.

Same-sex marriage? I don’t recall our talking — or dreaming — much about that. We considered ourselves realists. Sometimes idealists. But never fantasists.

As it happens, we were pessimists, and underestimated our country’s capacity for change. That was my thought all week, even as it remained unclear what the endlessly dithering New York State Legislature would decide and even as President Obama, speaking at a gay gala in Manhattan, stayed the closeted pro-gay course, giving coy signals of solidarity without tying the knot. The fact that same-sex marriage was drawing such serious attention at such high levels was public proof of what I could see in my private life — in my own family. Where we are is a long way from where we were.

Full Story from The New York Times

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MD: Legislator Comes Out on Eve of Marriage Equality Debate

Wednesday, March 9th, 2011

Maryland Delegate Peter MurphyOn the eve of a historic vote on marriage equality, a member of Maryland’s legislature announced in an exclusive interview with the Washington Blade today that he is gay. Del. Peter Murphy (D-Charles County), a divorced father of two who also has two grandchildren, said his colleagues and family have known for years that he is gay.

“I have never denied [being gay],” Murphy said, “I just presumed people knew.”

Murphy’s announcement brings to eight the total number of openly gay and lesbian members of Maryland’s legislature, the most of any state in the country. There is one openly gay state senator — Rich Madaleno — and now seven members of the House of Delegates. Murphy said he’s confident the marriage equality bill will pass later this week, possibly in a final vote on Friday.

Full Story from the Washington Blade

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Being Gay in Israel

Thursday, January 6th, 2011

Being Gay in IsraelThe first extensive profile of Israel’s gay and lesbian community concludes that Lesbians do not tell anyone about their sexual orientation, on average, for two and a half years after they begin doubting whether they are heterosexual, while gay men often remain in the closet longer – about three and a half years.

The comprehensive study was conducted by four researchers at Hoshen, an educational center for the gay community in Israel: Aylon Slater, Uri Ike, Inbal Katsaf and Shai Hertz.

Hoshen is an independent organization that aims to integrate members of the gay community into mainstream society through educational programs, with an emphasis on tolerance, pluralism and openness. Much of their work is done through lessons and lectures given by representatives of the group, under the auspices of the Education Ministry, with an emphasis on sharing personal stories and experiences.

Full Story from Haaretz.com

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David Hyde Pierce on Gay Marriage

Monday, November 15th, 2010

David Hyde PierceDavid Hyde Pierce, best known as Dr. Niles Crane on ‘Frasier’ and current star of the revival of ‘La Bete’ on Broadway, recently sat down with Jordan Roth, president of Jujamcyn Theaters, at the 92nd Street YMCA in New York City to discuss his career, coming out of the closet, gay marriage and why there’s nothing crueler than syndicated television.

In the most intimate portion of the discussion, Pierce opened up about being gay and why he finally decided to make his relationship with longtime partner Brian Hargrove public in 2007.

“It was very important to me never to pretend, never to hide,” Pierce said. “In 1985, my partner Brian and I were new in the business and were not comfortable letting people know that we were gay. We had separate apartments. We went about our business.”

Full Story from PopEater

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In Asia, Coming Out is All About Marriage (NPR)

Tuesday, July 20th, 2010

Commentator Sandip Roy is an editor with New America Media and host of New America Now on member station KALW in San Francisco.

The other day I watched two friends, both Indian, get married in a beautiful garden in Santa Cruz. One is Christian, the other Hindu, so they had two ceremonies. There was a three-tiered wedding cake and a sacred fire. But the really amazing part of the ceremony was that one of their fathers had flown in from India to bless them. It was amazing because my friends are both men.

And watching them touch the father’s feet during their unofficial ceremony, I realized that the fight over gay marriage is ending. Coming out in India is really about marriage. In fact, the standard coming-out line is, “Mom, Dad, I don’t think I am going to get married.” For my immigrant friends, being gay in California is not much of an issue. Being unmarried in their 30s and 40s is the conversation-stopper at Indian potlucks. One friend said that when an unmarried Chinese friend told his parents that at least he wasn’t gay, they retorted, “We’d rather you were gay with kids.”

When I left India for America, my aunts worried about who I might end up marrying. “I hope it’s another Bengali,” one told me. Over the years, that relaxed to, “I hope she’s a Hindu.” Then it became, “At least another Indian,” until finally we reached, “I hope you’ll get married before we all die.”

Full Story from NPR

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