Reverend Denise Tracy

In 1974 I graduated from theological school. As a woman in a new field, I had to create a ministry. In addition to my job as a campus Chaplain, I contacted local churches and asked for weddings their ministers might not be able to perform. It was exciting.
One day a young man called, set up an appointment for a ceremony consult. When he arrived for the appointment, he was accompanied by another young man. They had been to 8 churches and no one would speak to them about a commitment ceremony or holy union, as they were called then. I told them, I had not performed such a ceremony, but if they would be patient and if they would help me, I would be glad to officiate for them.
I have been ever thankful that I decided to do so. I was the only person for many miles, to provide such ceremonies. I became known as a resource for what was then the gay and lesbian community. I have moved several times and each time, I have officiated weddings for what has now become the LGBTQ community.
When marriage equality passed, I was delighted to be able to sign marriage licenses for same sex couples!!
When working with two people, I try to carefully listen to what each couple wishes to express in their ceremony and in their vows. What readings, what other elements will make this ceremony unique? How can we create a processional and recessional that celebrates the momentous event that represents their love? I listen to what each couple believes. Is the ceremony to be secular or spiritual or God centered? I think your wedding should be just the way you wish it to be. My role is to help you craft the ceremony of your dreams. I want you to be able to look back for many years and say, “Our wedding was just the way we imagined it would be!”